The administration states that I filled out a visitation form in 1997, where-as, I supposedly checked a box of the form claiming my son’s mother as my common law wife. I do have a son wois now 22 years old. His mother’s name is Mia. Mia and I have no type of relationship at all. Not then, not now, and we never will have one. So, how can we be married by common law or otherwise? I wait to add someone new to my visitation list, the administration will make me prove who this person is to me. Can’t prove it, no deal. Mia has been on my list prior to 1997 because of the simple face that she is the mother of my son. No other reason exits. She had not visited me before 1997, during 1997, and for the next 17 years to present. She is not on my registered phone call list. She has not sent me any mail or money or anything else that would show that she even knows that I am alive.
Now I don’t know if I checked the box or not. I was a young man facing a 99 year sentence for a murder conviction knowing that without a miracle, I would be doing a lot of time. I could have been out of my mind and I would have to be to check that box. Still, checking a box on a form does not constitute marriage.
Now, it’s 2015 and I have found the absolute love of my life. We want desperately to be married. The only problem is that the administration says I am already married and that it would take death or divorce to change it. Huh??? No way I’m dying to get out of it. I don’t wish death for anyone else. That leaves divorce. However, how can you divorce someone you have never been married to? Besides, I don’t want a divorce showing up in any records anywhere because I have never been married. When I do marry H.J. it will be for life. One time! That’s it! Til it happens though, I have to play the game that these people play. But umm…you don’t hear me though.